Last week we talked about a very powerful concept, the power of our inner dialogue or self talk. How did you find the idea of the connection between what you are thinking and what you are feeling? I hope you are able to see the value of being aware of your thoughts and keeping them as accurate as possible. We were delighted to receive quite a number of very insightful comments about the significance of this concept. Please continue to listen to your inner dialogue, or more often your inner critic, if you are feeling distressed!
This week we are going to focus on a dimension of ourselves that may be a little more subtly but very powerful, none the less, it is our unique gift!
Sohail and I believe that we all have a unique gift, a passion or talent that is special to us. In psychotherapy, we help people find that specialness inside them and nurture it. We strongly feel that sharing this gift is an essential way to share your true and authentic self with the world. And amazingly, being your authentic self is deeply central to your happiness. In fact, one of my most cherished teachers, July Fraser, considered expression of the true self so important that she would often say that, depression is suppressed expression!
The challenge with this issue is that these gifts we have inside are often not the ones that our families and communities consider important, because often times they do not allow us to make enough money or if they do, they are not in our Dear One’s view of what they want us to do with our lives. As a result, they steer us in the direction of what they think will be best for us. They are eager to see us become a physician or accountant because, ‘all of our family has been in that profession for generations’.
As most people do, I needed to learn what my special gift is. A number of years ago, as I was doing some soul searching about this issue, I realized I had a special relationship with color and through out all of my life I always had a hobby that in some way used color. Whether it was interior decorating, sewing my own clothes or handicrafts, color was the most central element of those pastimes. Currently, my passion for the last 9 years has been Stained Glass, giving life to the beautiful colors in glass. I have made a number of windows but now I am making lamps for our clinic.
So, now it’s your turn. Between now and next week ask yourself, what are the things that I naturally do well? What do I love to do? What is my passion or special gift? And how can I use my gift to express my authentic self?
Until next week, wishing you peace in your Green Zone!
Bette Davis RN BN MN with
Dr. K. Sohail